Category Archives: Action/Adventure

Zero Dark Thirty (2012), directed by Kathryn Bigelow

zero dark thirty posterWhen I graduated Yeshiva College in 1964, the Senior Class officers asked me to solicit funds for the annual yearbook. One ad I solicited was from the Volkswagen dealership from which I had purchased my first car, a classic Volkswagen Beetle, one of the few cars for which a parking space could be found in Manhattan. A few weeks later, I received a letter in the mail from the editor of the yearbook along with the check from the Volkswagen dealership. He informed me that many Holocaust survivors supported Yeshiva University and it would be offensive and painful for them to see the Yeshiva accept money from a German company. Moreover, a week later, while stopped for a red light in the New York’s Washington Heights neighborhood, someone from an adjacent car yelled: “Why are you driving that Nazi tuna fish can?” It was an “aha” moment for me. I knew no Holocaust survivors and I assumed in my naivete that as time goes on, we forgive and forget; but the incident reminded me that Jews do not forget the evil of the past.

Remembering evil is the subtext of Zero Dark Thirty, the story of the United States manhunt for Osama Bin Laden, the embodiment of evil who commandeered the 9/11 attacks in which 3000 innocents were killed. Spearheading the hunt is a young CIA operative named Maya, who, over a ten-year period, doggedly tries to put together pieces of evidence from a variety of sources. Things begin to fast-track when, in questioning one suspect, she innovates. She decides to lie about the outcome of an attack to a prisoner who has been in total isolation, unaware of events on the outside. Using this ruse, she is able to extract valuable information about the identity of one of the terrorists who planned the 9/11 attacks. This eventually leads to the identification of Bin Laden’s most trusted courier.

Maya’s challenge is to provide actionable intelligence that can justify a strike. The Americans track the courier to gain more knowledge about the location and daily routines of Bin Laden. As the data is gathered, Maya pushes for a strike on the house in which she believes Bin Laden lives. Without absolute proof that he is there, her superiors are reluctant to order a strike; but they eventually come around to her way of thinking even though they are not totally convinced. Her sense of mission, coupled with her determination and intelligence, persuade the decision-makers to support her and Bin Laden is killed in the ensuing strike.

Jews are commanded in the Torah to remember Amalek, the arch enemy of the Jewish people who attacked the weak and infirm, the elderly, and the children as they were departing Egypt. Tradition tells us that Haman, the villain of the Purim story, is a descendant of Amalek. There is a custom in some communities to write the name of Haman on one’s shoe on the holiday of Purim; and while the story of Purim is being chanted, we stomp with our feet every time the name of Haman is uttered, thus causing the name of Amalek to be eradicated today even though his crimes took place 3000 years ago.

It is similar to what animates today’s present day search for Nazis who committed atrocities against humanity over 60 years ago. Zero Dark Thirty reminds us that the passing of time does not minimize the crime. We still hunt for evildoers because we believe there must be accountability for doing evil. When we remember the past, it guarantees that we will have a future.

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Hugo (2011), directed by Martin Scorsese

Hugo posterI recently had a conversation with a friend who moved to Israel ten years ago. I asked him why he made the move at the age of 50 when he was gainfully employed in a senior technology position with a well-established company. He told me that, in spite of the outward perception of his success, he saw the handwriting on the wall in terms of his professional life in America. Younger people were rising in the company who were more adept and knowledgeable, and he knew it was simply a matter of time before he was let go. That reality motivated him to move to Israel and reinvent himself here where he started a “quickie-lube” automobile service center, which is now thriving.

I thought about my friend as I watched Hugo, an engrossing, imaginative story of an innovative businessman, Georges Melies, who is left behind as the world changes and technology advances. Unlike my friend, he is unable to reconcile his creative past life with a future that is changing every day, and so he becomes depressed and sad over a fate of which he has no control.

The agent of his emotional redemption is Hugo Cabret, a 12-year-old boy orphaned when his widowed father dies in a museum fire. A bond between father and son is the movies. In particular, the imaginative films of Georges Melius, whom Hugo’s father adored, is the favorite of father and son.

After his father’s death, Hugo is taken in by his alcoholic uncle who maintains the clocks in the railroad station, and Hugo learns how to maintain and repair them. While managing all the timepieces, he tries to fix a broken automaton, a mechanical man, which his father bought many years ago. It is this project which animates Hugo, who senses that his father has left him a message which only the automaton can reveal. Desperate to keep his father’s memory alive, Hugo steals mechanical parts to repair the automaton, but he is eventually caught by a toy store owner named Georges Melius who makes and fixes toys. Their relationship is at first tense, but when Hugo discovers that the toy store owner is the same Georges Melius, the moviemaker and creative genius who was beloved by his father, he wants to repair not just the automaton but Georges Melius as well.

We learn that Georges was a master filmmaker, who introduced clever and original special effects into his silent movies. Unfortunately, the advent of World War I changed the entertainment landscape in France where the story takes place, and Georges is forced to sell his movies in order to survive financially. Hugo discovers that Georges actually created the automaton, which was the only surviving remnant of his creativity. Hugo, of course, possesses it and wants to return it to its creator. How he does that is the stuff of a magical movie, with exquisite art direction and cinematography which makes Hugo a contemporary masterpiece.

King Solomon tells us in Proverbs that “the righteous fall seven times and rise again.” The message to all men is never to despair after setbacks or tragedy. God is orchestrating things behind the scenes, and one can find meaning even in the most dire of circumstances. The proper response to adversity is to learn from it, not to give in to it. When Georges Melius finally has his emotional awakening, he acknowledges his debt to a brave young man “who saw a broken machine and, against all odds, fixed it. It was the kindest magical trick that ever I have seen.” The reference is both to fixing the automaton and to Hugo’s rekindling of Georges’s creative fire, enabling him to join the larger community of artists from which he had been detached for so many years.

Hugo reminds us to help those broken souls who need human connection, and to “fail forward” and learn from adversity rather than wallow in despair.

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Blood Diamond (2006), directed by Edward Zwick

blood diamond posterI recently completed my second year of teaching in an Israeli school and asked my 6th graders what their plans were for the summer. Many told me they were going to summer camp to study Torah and to play sports. Earlier that same morning, I read an article about Hamas summer camps. What do the kids do there? They learn how to handle weapons, use live ammunition in military exercises, and the best way to kidnap an Israeli soldier. What a contrast! Some spend a summer learning how to love; others spend a summer learning how to hate.

I thought of Hamas summer camp as I watched Blood Diamond, a gripping, violent thriller about commercial traffic in diamonds that is used to finance conflict in budding African nations, often using children as executioners who are taught at a young age how to hate.

The setting is the Sierra Leone Civil War in 1999, where rebel and government forces are killing each other daily and committing unspeakable atrocities. Caught in the crossfire are the townspeople, one of whom is Solomon Vandy, a fisherman from the village of Shenge. In one sudden raid, he is separated from his wife and children and is forced to work in a diamond field under a brutal overlord. His son, Dia, is conscripted into the rebel forces and is brainwashed to shed his previous identity and become a hardened killer, under the banner of doing what is best for his country.

While working in the diamond fields, Solomon discovers a huge diamond worth a fortune, but his efforts to hide it are seen by his commander, who wants the diamond for himself. In the midst of trying to take it from Solomon, government troops launch an attack, at the end of which Solomon is incarcerated. In prison he meets Danny Archer, who is also aware that Solomon had hidden a valuable diamond. Danny offers to find Solomon’s family in return for the diamond, and so begins their alliance and ultimate friendship, punctuated by many tense moments of mistrust along the way.

Dia, Solomon’s son, has been trained to kill. His captors blindfold him and give him a machine gun to execute a man. He pulls the trigger, and when he removes his blindfold he knows that he has a new identity as executioner. The next time he kills, it will be easier because, as a child, he has no conception of the great pain he is inflicting. He thinks that taking another man’s life makes him an adult in the loyal service of his country.

This attitude comes to a head when, after many months, he sees his father, who he presumes is an enemy. He holds him at gunpoint, but then something amazing occurs. Solomon reminds his beloved son of conversations he had a long time ago about getting up early in the morning to go to school to study towards becoming a doctor. This childhood memory connects them in the present and Dia puts the gun down, tearfully embracing his father.

There is a concept in Jewish tradition that subjects learned in one’s youth stay with a person throughout his life. In fact, one of the Sages of the Talmud remarks that his most important teacher was not the one who taught him the sophisticated logic of Talmudic debate but rather the one who taught him the alef-bet, the Hebrew alphabet.

A parent does not always know what will stick in a child’s mind, what childhood memory will be the one that that will inspire him in later years to lead a life of commitment to parental values. Blood Diamond reminds us how important it is to create of reservoir of positive memories in our children that will enable them to remain faithful to our core beliefs and values when they are older.  Planting a garden of love can overcome a harvest of hate.

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Tristan and Isolde (2006), directed by Kevin Reynolds

tristan and isolde posterWhen I was a synagogue rabbi, a very agitated young man once confessed to me that when his girlfriend revealed that she was pregnant, he broke off his relationship with her and told her to get an abortion.  Now, several months later, he was overwhelmed by guilt. Life had moved on; he could no longer correct the situation, and he was very depressed and upset with what he did. Despite his insensitivity, his irresponsibility and his moral weakness, I intuitively understood he needed to feel that all was not lost. It was important to transmit the message that failure is not terminal. You can make terrible mistakes, but you can perform redemptive acts that mitigate punishment.  This is an important life lesson.

Tristan and Isolde deals with young people who make grave mistakes in judgment and the consequences of those mistakes. It is a tragic love story that takes place in medieval times when war raged between the British and Irish. The English are divided into clans and are routinely attacked and killed by the Irish. Lord Marke of Cornwall plans to unite the various tribes of Britain by becoming king and leading a united people to victory over the Irish. Marke is respected by most of the lords; his courageous demeanor in battle adds to his luster and the promise of his inspiring leadership.

Joining him in battle is Tristan, an orphan boy, who was saved from certain death by Lord Marke. Tristan is a loyal and brave warrior and fulfills Marke’s expectations as his heir apparent. But in a fierce contest with the Irish, he is wounded by a poisoned sword, and assumed to be dead. His funeral boat washes up on the Irish coast, where he is found by Isolde, the king’s daughter, and her maid. Slowly, he is nursed to health and Tristan and Isolde fall in love. However, circumstances force him to return to Britain.

Through a series of events, Tristan is reunited with Isolde in Britain, but she is now promised to Lord Marke as a wife by her father. She reluctantly goes through with the wedding, but the love which began on the shores of Ireland runs deep. Passions rage and Tristan and Isolde begin an illicit relationship that both know is doomed.

From the beginning, they are conflicted. Tristan says “I feel on fire and a guilt I can’t comodify.” Isolde agonizes: “Why does loving you feel so wrong?” It is a tortured relationship, in which two souls are divided by loyalty to a dear friend and benefactor, Lord Marke, and a burning desire to forget all moral boundaries and commit to loving one another in spite of what people say or think.

Lord Marke recognizes that their commitment to one another predated his marriage to Isolde and, in a magnanimous gesture, offers them an opportunity to escape together. At that moment, however, Tristan understands what is at stake for Lord Marke and the nation. He sends Isolde away, reminding her that if they were to flee together “for all time people would say it was our love that brought down a kingdom.” Duty triumphs over personal feelings and Tristan joins the battle against the Irish, ultimately sustaining a mortal wound.

Our Sages tell us that one hour of repentance and good deeds in this world is better than the entire life in the world to come, and that one can acquire eternal life in one moment of repentance. The sin of Tristan and Isolde cannot be dismissed. It is an egregious moral fault. But while we are alive, we can still influence our spiritual future. One selfless act, even one committed by a sinner, can change our eternal destiny and the destiny of others.

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World War Z (2013) directed by Marc Foster

world war z posterAs a child, my mother took me to see the movie Phantom of the Opera starring Claude Rains. There is a scary scene when a bottle of acid is thrown disfiguring a man forever. For many months afterward, I had nightmares. From that time on, seeing horror movies of any kind did not appeal to me and I rarely saw one. So it was with some reluctance that I went to see World War Z, a thriller about a zombie apocalypse threatening to take over the world.

The film opens with images of a happy family about to spend time together renewing and strengthening family ties. As they drive through stalled downtown Philadelphia traffic, however, the unexpected happens. A former UN employee, Gerry Lane, and his family are attacked by hordes of zombies along with countless others. The Lanes escape to a deserted apartment, where they are extracted by a helicopter sent by Gerry’s former UN colleague. They are then taken to a US Naval ship, where militarily analysts and scientific personnel are trying to determine the scope of this worldwide plague.

Dr. Andrew Fassbach, a virologist, is sent to a military base in South Korea to investigate the source of the virus along with Gerry, a veteran UN investigator, who is charged with facilitating the work of Dr. Fassbach. But then tragedy strikes. Fassbach is killed when he accidently discharges his gun amidst a zombie attack, and the investigating team is left without a scientist who can analyze the remains of those who have been killed by the zombies. At this moment, all seems lost. How can the problem be solved if there is no one to define the problem?

The Ethics of the Fathers says that in a place where there is no man, we have to step up to the plate and be the man. This is what Gerry does. When Fassbach dies, Gerry does not abort the mission. He does not make excuses. He understands what is at stake and continues on his search to investigate the source of the plague.

His search takes him from Korea to Jerusalem where he picks up more evidence and some helpful wisdom. Gerry learns that the Israelis had an early indication of the zombie menace and were able to use a barrier wall against terrorists as a barricade against zombie penetration. A local guru tells him that the Israelis took the zombie threat seriously and did not dismiss it because of their “tenth man” theory. This theory, based upon the experience of having miscalculated the strength and strategy of the enemy in a number of military situations, says that whenever everyone is in agreement about a potential threat, we suppose that a “tenth man” sees things differently. Moreover, we presume that the alternate view is correct and we investigate it. Solving a problem becomes similar to an exercise in Talmudic logic in which all possibilities are explored.

Ultimately, Gerry finds a path towards recovery, but it is not a panacea. As he observes the positive signs of human initiatives to end the zombie invasion, he wisely says: “This isn’t the end, not even close.” However, his comment reveals a determined optimism in the face of what seemed to be total apocalypse. This ability to focus on the positive in a desperate situation is what carries him forward to another day.

The Ethics of the Fathers tells us that it is not our job to complete the task, but rather simply to begin. This is especially true if that task seems overwhelming. Rather, all we need to do is put forth our best effort since the final result is in God’s hands.

Gerry does not solve the zombie problem, but he initiates a path towards a solution. That is sometimes the best we can do in difficult situations. Begin the process and leave the outcome to God.

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War of the Worlds (2005), directed by Steven Spielberg

war of the worlds posterDuring the Cuban Missile Crisis of the 1960s, I was taking a philosophy course at Yeshiva University. Students felt that there was real possibility of a nuclear holocaust, and my malaise was deepened when my Philosophy professor ended his Thursday class by saying “See you on Monday if there will be a Monday.”  I remember asking one of my Judaic studies teachers what would happen to the Jewish people in such a doomsday scenario. He told me that the Jews might suffer as well as the rest of humanity; but that there would always be a remnant of the people left, for God’s covenant with the Jews was eternal and the Jews would never totally disappear from the world. The only appropriate action we could take now was to do good deeds and pray for peace.

These memories percolated in my mind as I watched War of the Worlds, a story of what might happen if a malevolent extra-terrestrial force were to target the earth for destruction. The film opens as Ray Ferrier, a divorced dad, picks up his children, Robbie and Rachel, from his ex-wife who is going on a weekend vacation with her husband.

Ray has a very small parenting tool box; and while he enjoys spending time with his kids, he has little idea of who they are and what makes them tick. His parenting skills are tested when calamity strikes. Soon after they arrive at his Bayonne, New Jersey home, unseasonably strong winds and lightning set the stage for a Martian invasion of the earth.  Martian tripod-killing machines emerge from the bowels of the earth and incinerate everything around them. Ray, in a panic, flees to Boston with his children in one of the only remaining working vehicles, hoping to find sanctuary in the home of his former in-laws where their mother is staying.

Scenes of death and destruction traumatize Rachel; and when they find temporary refuge in a deserted building, she asks her father to sing her a lullaby so she can sleep. Ray doesn’t remember any lullaby, but he manages to sing a song that calms her. Ray realizes that in times of crisis, family comes first. The safety of loved ones trumps all other considerations.

Jewish tradition fosters a similar mind set. It is the family that is the bedrock of stability that enables one to endure the storms of adversity. The Bible emphasizes that when the Jews went down into the iron furnace of Egyptian slavery, they went down as families; for it is within the family unit that people can find safe haven and it is within the family where lifelong values are nurtured.

There is a well established family custom that Jewish parents bless their children regularly. Some do it once a year on Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the year; others do it every Friday night. It was my own custom to do it once a year, but in recent years I wished I had done it weekly. To look into your child’s eyes once a week, to utter a blessing to your son and daughter, and then to hug and kiss them seems an exquisite pleasure for a parent. Why do it only once a year? Kids leave the home when they grow up, but the memory of an embrace, of a heart to heart moment of love, leaves a bank account of affection that that can draw interest for many years.

My children and I live in different communities now but my children often call me on Friday to ask for by blessing. I cannot hug them from Israel, but I can tell them I love them and that means a lot to me and them.

War of the Worlds reminds us that in times of crisis, family comes first. It is wise to nurture family ties with our young children so that we and they can enjoy the warmth and constancy of our mutual love as we and our children grow older together.

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Brothers (2009), directed by Jim Sheridan

brothers posterMany times I have read in the newspapers about post-traumatic stress syndrome as it relates to soldiers coming home after serving in combat. I understand it intellectually, but it is something very far from my personal experience. In conversations with my son-in-law, one of the few Orthodox Jews who served in the Marines, he gave me some idea of what soldiers face in the battle. Although stationed in Kuwait and not in an active battle theater, he described the training he received for combat which focused on learning how to kill efficiently.

After watching Brothers, a powerful drama about the aftermath of military service, I have a better understanding of the daily stress of those who serve in battle and how service in the thick of combat can change lives for many years afterward.

Sam Cahill, a solid family man, is a Marine captain about to leave on his fourth tour of duty. Married to his high school sweetheart, Grace, and the father of two beautiful daughters, his parting is fraught with a quiet anxiety as family members take leave of one another.

Sam was a star high school athlete and student who never quit or backed away from a tough assignment. His brother, Tommy, in contrast, avoided responsibility at all costs. We first meet him as he leaves jail after serving time for armed robbery, and he arrives just in time to bid farewell to Sam as he embarks for Afghanistan in October of 2007.

News soon arrives that Sam’s helicopter has crashed, killing all of the Marines aboard. But in truth, Sam and his childhood friend, Joe Willis, have been taken captive in a remote mountain village. The film alternates scenes of Sam’s brutal incarceration with scenes of his family back home, who mourn for Sam and who at the same time try to reconstruct their lives without him. His brother Tommy becomes an anchor to Grace and the children who see in him a hint of their father and husband. Tommy and his friends even redecorate the family kitchen to give Grace an emotional lift.

A bond develops between Grace, her girls, and Tommy, in which they genuinely mourn for Sam while at the same time create isolated moments of happiness to make the present bearable. All this transpires as Sam and Joe are tortured brutally, both physically and mentally. Eventually, Sam does an unspeakable act which goes against his very nature, and the psychic residue of that act remains with him when he eventually is rescued and returns home. His adjustment to normality is complicated and involves his relationship with many family members who realize that something has changed within him. He is no longer the person he once was and may be unstable psychologically. The film approaches his adjustment in a complex way and we observe how a friend’s minor gesture can evoke major emotional reactions in Sam.

In the darkest of hours, Jewish tradition always tells us to focus on the light. Our Sages tell us the cycle of the moon reminds us that when all is dark, light will come. Bad times are not forever. The new moon will appear shortly, signaling that happiness and healing can begin. It is a message of hope that after tragedy will come joy and redemption. In Brothers, the response is not so clear, but it is evident that love between husband and wife can be the bedrock of a new beginning. Moreover, when Sam, in a moment of lucidity, says that in spite of what he has gone through, he should be so happy that he is alive, we realize that he is on a road to recovery. Appreciating the gifts we have in the present allows us to have a healthy future.

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Mr. and Mrs. Smith (2005), directed by Doug Liman

mr and mrs smith posterIn my work as a volunteer matchmaker on an internet site, I often see self-descriptions of people that are totally bland and uninteresting. One girl writes: “I love to read, listen to music, and I enjoy following sports and spending time with friends.” I wrote a note to her advising her to share something about her goals in life, what moves her spiritually, what makes her different from someone else. I find that men do not want a shallow mate. They want to marry a person who thinks deeply and who will have something to say to them about important life issues.

I was reminded of this as I watched Mr. and Mrs. Smith, an action-saturated comedy about two assassins who marry one another and do not reveal their professions to each other. Over time, they have little to say to one another except bland platitudes, and the film opens as they are participating in a marriage counseling session to rejuvenate their union.

We learn that John and Jane Smith first met in Bogota, Columbia where they both were being pursued by the authorities. It was love at first sight and soon after they married. Working for different firms, they conceal their true vocations and lead a life in which duplicity is the norm, each lying to the other whenever they leave the house on a mission. Things come to a head when they both are assigned to eliminate the same target. Almost killing each other, they discover each other’s true profession. At first, their professional goals come first and they attempt to kill each other; but love asserts itself and in an epiphany of honest affection, they reunite as a couple and rediscover their original passion for each other.

John and Jane soon find out that their employers want them dead. Assassins who marry one another are a liability and the Smiths become a target for a veritable army of assassins. How they cleverly evade their pursuers and untangle the web of lies that they have woven over the five or six years of their marriage provides a humorous and fascinating narrative of marital therapy taken to extremes.

Judaism places a high value on preserving marriage and insuring good relations between husband and wife. So important is this that even the name of God can be erased from Scripture in order to sustain the marriage bond and to create a peaceful household. For example, when a woman is suspected of adultery, she is required to participate in a ritual that demands the erasure of holy text to restore her good name. The Sages all agree that for that lofty purpose, God’s name can be blotted out. The sanctity of the home is paramount.

Tensions inevitably arise in a marriage where two people are sharing every day together. One can always find something to complain about. But that is not what marriage is all about. On the contrary, marriage is about finding the good in another person, and not finding fault and constantly criticizing the other.  In truth, it is much easier to love someone from afar because that love is not tested daily as it is in marriage.

Mr. and Mrs. Smith reminds us that the bedrock of a successful marriage is a combination of unconditional love, honest communication, and a focus on the future instead of the past. In a moment of crisis when they are both facing possible annihilation, Jane tells John “There’s nowhere I’d rather be than here with you.” That’s a message that resonates with John, who knows that whatever the outcome, he and his wife possess a shared destiny.

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Real Steel (2011), directed by Shawn Levy

Real Steel posterAs part of the matriculation requirement for Israeli high school students, they have to do a project upon which their oral examination is based. Since my students enjoy cinema, I gave them the topic of “Influential Movies of the 20th and 21st Centuries.” One student selected the film Real Steel, which describes a future time when human boxing is outlawed as too dangerous and robot fights are substituted. I asked the student why the film was influential, and he responded that it was influential for him because the story of a boy and his father that is the subtext of Real Steel gave him an insight into his own relationship with his father and how it might be improved.

Charlie, a former boxer and now manager of a robot boxer, is an absentee father when Max’s  mother dies. Instead of assuming responsibility for Max, he requests $100,000 in return for signing over custody to Max’s aunt. But there is a hitch. Max’s aunt and her husband have to go away for a month before they can take Max into their home, so they ask Charlie to take care of him until they return. The month turns into an unforgettable road trip for Max as he accompanies his father through the entrepreneurial world of robot boxing. Charlie buys used robots, repairs them, and then uses them in fights in order to win prize money. Sometimes his robots win, but most of the time they lose and eventually Charlie goes broke.

All seems lost until Max serendipitously finds a buried robot named Atom. They reboot Atom and set to work restoring its fighting functions. Although built as a machine to spar with other robots, Max and Charlie teach Atom how to take the offensive and fight against other mechanically superior machines.

Gradually Charlie and Max find unofficial fights for Atom. Max uses the winnings of matches to buy spare parts and fix Atom, and Charlie begins to pay off his old debts. Eventually, Atom’s prowess is recognized by professional promoters and he is offered prestigious matches in the Worldwide Robot Boxing Association. Soon the ultimate match is scheduled between Atom and Zeus, the undefeated champion of robot boxing. The bruising fight is the climax of the film, with the outcome unclear until the last moment.

The heart of Real Steel is not the robot gadgetry; rather it is the story of a dysfunctional relationship between a father and a son, and how that relationship is made whole again. Reconciliation begins when father and son stop finding fault with one another, when they begin to accept one another’s imperfections, and when they share a common goal. The shared goal of repairing Atom and preparing him for his fights unites father and son and rids them of old memory tapes of past indiscretions.

As a parent, it is natural to find fault with a child. I often want to correct my children, but I try to be guided by the Biblical model of how to give correction. I first ask myself if this is the right time and place?  Can I criticize the behavior and not my child? Is my child ready to listen to me, or do I first need to build more trust so that my words will be accepted more readily?

The Bible tells us that criticism is good. We grow when we are able to listen to reproof and make midcourse corrections in the way we live. However, we have to be very careful when we criticize. The language in the Bible for this commandment is “you shall surely reprove.” Our Sages inform us that the Hebrew phrase for reprove is repeated to emphasize that reproof should only be given when someone is ready to listen. Simply criticizing goes nowhere. Charlie and Max finally understand this, which allows them to focus on the future and enrich their relationship. Real Steel does not just refer to robots. It refers to the strong bond between father and son that endures despite the mistakes that we make as fathers and sons.

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Crimson Tide (1995), directed by Tony Scott

crimson tide posterWhen I served as a synagogue rabbi, I was often asked by congregants to listen to a dilemma they were facing and then to offer some guidance. As they explained their situation to me, I often felt I needed more information to give them sound advice. Sometimes the problem was straightforward; other times I counseled congregants to wait until more information was available before making a decision. I rarely regretted telling them to wait a little longer before adopting a particular course of action, but I would regret offering advice prematurely before all the facts were in. This is one of the challenges faced by the protagonists in Crimson Tide, a tense and absorbing naval thriller dealing with the possibility of nuclear war.

The film begins with rebels commandeering nuclear missile launching sites in Russia. When the rebel leader threatens to launch the missiles, the United States sends its own nuclear submarine to patrol the waters off Russia and, if necessary, to launch a pre-emptive attack against Russia. The tension escalates when Frank Ramsey, the captain of the submarine Alabama, and Ron Hunter, the new executive officer of the ship, clash over the protocols for preparing for a possible nuclear strike.

When the submarine receives news that the rebels are about to break the codes for the missile launch, the Alabama goes into a state of high alert. A hostile sub sends torpedoes towards the Alabama, which miss their target; but the explosion nearby causes the ship to lose its radio transmission. Herein lies the problem: the last completed message received is for the Alabama to launch its missiles, but there is a subsequent message that is incomplete. Does it confirm the previous order or does it cancel it? Ramsey argues that it does; Hunter says it does not. Both men operate out of pure motives, but one approach may lead to a worldwide nuclear holocaust and the other to the annihilation of the United States. Each passing moment without a decision puts America at risk, but a quick decision that is wrong is catastrophic for the world.

Jewish tradition encourages debate when the way forward is unclear. The Talmud is the quintessential text embodying the argumentative spirit searching for truth. The classic examples are the debates between Hillel and Shammai, two giants of Torah scholarship. They provide a model to emulate. They both want is best for the community and they are devoid of personal agenda,l so their disagreements are viewed positively. They may arrive at different conclusions, but both are animated by the same quest for truth.

When Ramsey is looking for a new executive officer, he confides to one of his senior officers that he wants someone who will be an independent thinker, someone who will not be afraid to challenge him. Inwardly, he values the perspective of others. This is a lesson that emerges from the Creation narrative. There, God says “Let us make man.”  The commentators ask: to whom is God talking? Who did God have to consult with before creating the world? In truth, God did not have to consult with anyone, but the Bible here is teaching us an important life lesson; namely, that before embarking on any important task, we should always consult others. God wanted to teach us that no matter how important and knowledgeable we think we are, we should seek counsel with others to make better decisions.

As I get older, I realize how little I know. As a young man, I thought there were only two ways to see things: the right way and the wrong way. With the benefit of life experience, I have learned that there are a variety of different approaches to life’s challenges. Crimson Tide reminds us that the more informed we are and the more we glean the wisdom of others, the better decisions we will make.

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